Pink is not a part of my life.

 

Pink is not a part of my life.

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 5 years ago this month…

I dreamed of fluffy tutu’s, head swallowing bows and plastic jewels.  I could see her sweet white blonde curls, large blue eyes, dressed up in princess costumes and tea parties with stuffed animals. I expected to be annoyed with little hands in my make- up drawer and feet tripping around the house in my heels. I saw a sassy little thing, hands on her hip.

I saw my life, like a little story book and I loved it. There was a yearning in my heart inexpressible and secret.

 

“What did we tell you last month?” asked the ultrasound technician, a halting hesitation in her voice.

I stared at what my untrained eye could clearly see should not be there. Even without the foreign words pounding and echoing in my occupied brain my heart stopped. Like a pop of a balloon everything burst and changed, I felt raw.

The file said “girl” with a question mark beside it from the last ultrasound… funny because they didn’t tell me about the question mark. I felt like I lost a baby, as though they told me the heart beat  had stopped for my baby girl and suddenly there was an alien boy in her place.

I left the hospital, tears streaming down my face, thinking of the pink things I’d already purchased.  The confusion and guilt I felt pounded through my body and I kept touching my belly apologizing for my disappointment. I was scared that I would somehow harm my new baby boy.

I wondered how people felt when they had a baby of the opposite sex from what they were told in the hospital! At least I had a few months warning here…

A kind friend took me shopping the next day and we picked out an outfit together… for a little boy. It was a weird and empty feeling that was both confusing and guilt fostering. I grieved, took a deep breath and moved on.

Today.

I now have two boys and wouldn’t change it for anything. They are crazy, draining and perfect. I love their energy, life and insanity. They are not still,  quiet or able to be taken to a restaurant. I can’t imagine it any other way.

and I love it.

  • Ben

    I couldn’t imagine it any other way either! The boys are awesome! Soooooo much fun!!

  • Denclark1

    Me either!!!! They are two of the most LOVED on the planet!!!!!!! Thank you Ben and Heidi for chosing to have kids!!!!!! Wow!!! How empty life would be without them!!!!
    “One of the priviledged” Grandmas

  • Debbie Skifstad

    These are two amazing duffers…so thankful for them in our lives :) Auntie Debbie

  • Sherryk

    Great post! And know that I am so thankful for your crazy boys as well and love them so very much and I am incredibly thankful that they are a part of my life and I get to be a part of theirs!